All of you here today, and that is not by accident. You're here because you're somewhere consciously and unconsciously. You wanted to grow.You wanted to understand yourself better, and I think that deserves a small moment of recognition. So let's do a simple gesture together. Just gently pat your shoulders and silently say to yourself, I'm grateful to myself for being here today. No one else needs to hear it. It's you just for you. Now let me start with something being honest. If I rewind my leadership journey, it didn't start with confidence. It started with pressure, pressure to perform, pressure to prove myself, and also to have all the answers. As a woman in tech, I'm sure many of you can relate to this invisible expectation.

For a long time, I believed that leadership meant doing more, achieving more, delivering more. But over time, I realized something important. Leadership is not just about what we do. It's about how we think, how we feel, and how we show up, especially when things are hard. Today, it is not lab about learning just the frameworks, but it's also learning about more yourself. This slide shows you the professional version of me. Seventeen plus of years of banking, various roles, including leadership, working across product and technology. But what it doesn't show is journey behind it, the moments of self doubt, the pressure of delivering consistently, and figuring it out how to lead through uncertainty. And, honestly, being mother of the two changed my leadership more than anything else. It taught me really a patience and also letting go of the things and being present.

And many of my leadership lessons are just didn't come from work. It came from the real life. Before going to start, how self aware do you feel today in the scale of one to five? If I'm being honest, my number is not constant. On good days, I feel really clear and grounded, and I always rate myself five. But on stressful days, I notice I react before I respond. And that's exactly when read self awareness matters the most, especially for us as women in the tech. We constantly managing the expectations, performance, and perception. So today, you also not going to look into the three psychological frameworks which I learned during my leadership journey. MBTI, which is how we think, what is our personality, DISC, how we behave and perceived by others, positive intelligence, what happens internally, and mindset.

For me, these are not just frameworks. It became like three mirrors, individually useful, but together, they help me to grow and then understand who I am, how I show up, and how my mind support or subterges me. Three three frameworks in this leadership, especially working with the diverse teams with a differ very different personalities during my journey, initial days, I found it really frustrating. Why don't people think the same way I do? Why don't they move as fast as I do? These frameworks really helped me to shift from frustration to understanding. MBTI shows your personality type, explains your how you make decisions. DISC will behavior style. Positive intelligence help you to manage your mindset. Coming to the first framework, which I learned. This is the framework which work like inner compass.

It's a tool to help the people to understand their personality, and, also, it groups the people into 16 different personalities. Extravert or introvert, sensing versus intuition, thinking versus feeling, judging versus perceiving. I would look I like to check-in this one, in each category, what is you. Take the first letter. Are you extrovert? Then take e. Introvert, take I. So these are the personality types. I'm an ENFJ, which means I naturally focus on people, relationships, and alignment. But like every strength, it has a shadow. I tend to overcome it. I find it really hard to say. I sometimes delay difficult conversations. And I think many of us, especially women, naturally lean towards the keeping harmony, but leadership also requires clarity and courage.

When I come to the second framework, disk, this is a common tool which everybody knows it, but I thought to refresh as well. It's also behavior into the four styles. By knowing your disk style, you can also improve how you communicate, work in teams, and adapt to the different situations. It can be a combination of two colors too. My DISC profile is mix of yellow and red, so I bring energy, enthusiasm, and also drive and urgency. That's helpful for things moving forward. But when I am under pressure, I can be very direct and also intense. I remember being in the meeting recently when I pushing for. For me, it was about urgency and making getting things done. But later, somebody share a valuable feedback for me still stick with me. They felt on unheard and also rushed to make the decision.

These moments really stayed with me because my intention was to move things forward, but the impact was very, really different. That's when I realized leadership is not about intention. It is also about how others experience you and perceive you. The third framework is the positive intelligence. It's really turning point for me when I learned this framework. For the first time, I started focusing my internal patterns. I realized my stress didn't come from situations. It came from how I see the situation, how I interpreted them. This is a framework was developed by Shira Shamim, and it will help you to build your mental strength and notice you to reduce the negative thoughts and focus more on your positive thoughts and in which is your calm inner voice. Subtitles, these are the negative inner voices in your head. Always appears every moment. It also creates stress, doubt, or fear. They can hold you back from growing to the next step and also feeling confident. Sometimes it also bothers you when you really wanted to get the things done.

So suppose judge criticizing yourself, also criticizing others. My top supporters are judge, controller, and pleaser. I always I'm a really big self critic. I always criticize myself for everything when I am under the pressure. I and I think many of us also might relate. We push ourselves so hard, wanted to do right by others, but sometimes it also costs off ourselves. So awareness of this saboteurs is also your first step to changing it. As the saboteurs, we also have the positive voices which is in your head, which is calm, wise part of you. We have five powers. Emphasize, explore, innovate, navigate, and activate. When you shift your focus from negative to positive, then you strengthen your sage power.

This shifts your this really helps your mind mental fitness and feel balanced and grow personally. You can also do yourself the top three saboteurs about yourself. It's available on the Internet in the post to intelligence slash saboteurs framework, where if you answer some questions, it will also give you what are your top three saboteurs in a moment. So this also helps you to enable strategies to work on them and activate your personal growth and sage mindset. Once you know the top three servitors, it is also important to activate them. So it is like once you recognize them, you can choose more positive response. If the judge is being harsh and respond with empathy, I would like to give little bit of examples how you react. Suppose if you see in the screen, the judge. As a self critic, this is common thing for me. I'm not good enough. I always mess up the things.

But if and if sage response was, it is okay to make the mistakes, but I can learn and grow for meat. This way you can shift for each saboteur in your sage, your positive response. There is also one way to activate your positive mindset. This is one practice which I'm doing from past two year one year approximately really helped me to grow. Even five to ten minutes reflecting on what really triggered me today, what was feeling that moment of the time. Over time, I started seeing the patterns, and that awareness changed how I respond. There is also another method which I generally use it. It's a three grip method. I use it for the during the challenging situations. Every challenging situations have some positive ways to learn and grow from it.

Take out the challenge and help yourself what is the three gifts that you out of it, learn from it. So I would like to give an example. So recently, a challenging stakeholder situation really felt frustrating at first. When I reflect and back myself and what I learned from it, I could see, like, it improved really my communication. It helped me to clear on expectations and also strengthen trust over time. Sometime, growth come comes from mistakes, also from the difficult situations. If you would like to do this exercise, you can also take for yourself. Situation, identify how you reacted, and three possible gifts out of it. Another way of doing the is also the PQ reps. It's more on the think of a quick reset button.

It's a short mental exercises, builds the muscle of attention, and helps to shift from negative voice to the positive voice. So this involves focusing on the sensation, touch, breathe for ten seconds or more. So this also guide you some how to move forward and change your perception of any other situation. As I mentioned, we have three frameworks, MBTI and DISC and PQ. Bringing these three together also give your full picture of inner persona. Each frame work look like a different level here of how you are, who you are. MBTI, DISC, positive intelligence. When we combine these, we get a deeper understanding, not just what we do, but why we do it. I would like to share why what kind of Compass I did it recently. The MBTI, it's my personal it's left side.

You can show my compass, my MBTI type, and my discolor and top saboteurs and sage power and power to cultivate. If you know myself like this, whenever challenge situation comes, then I always see, okay. This is the moment to pass and try to navigate, emphasize on myself and also to others. Letting things go. You can also do this exercise for yourself. What is your awareness compass? How you can yours make yourself aware of yourself? Because self awareness is really a first step to grow yourself into the leadership for your next steps. To wrap up, if I reflect my journey, self awareness hasn't removed challenges, but it helped me to change how I experience them.

I moved from reacting to responding, judging to understanding, controlling to trusting. So my invitation to you is simple. This week, choose one moment to pass, one pattern to notice, one small shift to make. Because the most powerful leadership transformation doesn't happen outside. It happens within ourselves. I would like to show also some books which I have gone through really helped me to grow as a person. His differing positive intelligence surrounded by idiots, atomic habits, icky guy. How you make your happy life.