Okay. So maybe as the answers might start coming, I'll go to the next slide. Before I get into the framework, I want to stay here for a moment.Look at this image right here, and it's specifically on the floor. Sensitivity, creativity, playfulness, dreams, boundaries, rest, love. These are not soft words. These are parts of us we decided were liabilities on the way up. I see so often women think when they show up as their full self to work, that's too much. And then we keep saying, are we too much? Is this what expected? Do we have to act like others around us? And I'm not going to blame here a man. Do we have to be a certain type to climb the ladder? If you are watching this and you felt something and you read that list, that's not coincidence.

That's recognition. Let that land. That's recognition. This whole talk is about what happens when you decide to pick them back up. Drop one word in the chat window, one thing you have left behind, and I'll be reading. Heather, I saw your comment, and I will leave some time toward the end to talk about this. But through this presentation, you will realize I am someone who carries all of this with me. And where I am sitting today, it is very possible to be all of you and still be successful. So continue watching, and we'll discuss that in more detail. Here is why we left all of that behind in the first place. We were handed a choice. Nobody asked us if we ever wanted it.

Be all of who you are, your intuition, your depth, your fire, your wholeness, are be taken seriously. That's the deal we were offered, and most of us, without even realizing it, took it. And this talk is about what that cost us. And here is what accepting that choice actually cost us every single day. So let me show you what happens. We perform instead of lead. We shrink before we speak. Success feels hollow. We are exhausted in ways we cannot explain. None of this is weakness. It is the price of a deal we were never meant to accept. And that fragmentation tax is real, and we have been paying it gladly. Just let that sink in. I know this because I left it. I want to tell you something true about my own story. I was in my thirties.

I had the title, the salary, the seat at the table, and I started asking why any of it mattered. That was not a breakdown. That was a wake up call. The success was real, but only part of me had arrived to receive it. And that was the turning point for me, that I do not want first of all, you know how we define success? I wanted to redefine success. And funny enough today when people ask me, what's your definition of success? I say, how much have I laughed today? It's as simple as that. But because I am my full self and I show up fully, the external validation, the recognition, the titles, the money, they are all the byproduct of who I am. And when I finally got honest about what was happening, it came down to one thing. Before I say it, read it out loud. One sentence changed everything for me.

Success without purpose is just motion. So I started asking a different question, and I noticed most of us are asking the wrong one. Here's a list of question that I often get most, whether it's DM, whether LinkedIn, email, or when I show up on conferences or sometimes even after these talks. How do I get to the c suite role? How do I get a board position? How do I launch a venture or pivot into a new field? Or how do I even integrate my work life balance? I use the work. There's no such thing as work life balance. What I encourage people to think about is work life integration. What is the difference? Imagine you're showing up to your job or in your professional life, leaving half of those qualities at home because you need to be professional. You need to be direct.

You need to be all those hardest skills, but most soft skill. No wonder you feel not complete when you're showing up. So you're like, should I be here? But a part of me is still sitting at the closet. And then when you go home, then you have a different personality. And then you're like, I cannot bring my work skills to my home, so you are always fragmented. And that's why I say we need to live work life integration, not work life balance. But don't get me wrong. All of these goals are great goals, and they are real, but they are answers to the wrong question. There is a better question to ask first. The question that changed everything for me was simpler than I expected. Right here.

One question changed how I lead, how I build, and what I was willing to stop leaving behind. Instead of what's next, ask what's true. When I ask what was true, I had to look at the structure I had been climbing and what was it actually built for. Let me show you a new reframe. Here, what we are looking at, the letter was never built for you. This is what we have been taught all our life. There is a letter or even before the letter, there's a checklist. Go to school, go to college, get married, have kids. And when you get in your thirties and you're going into your career professional career journey, then it's one direction up. And here is the problem with the letter. One direction, one identity. Leaves part of yourself behind. Success measured by altitude. That is the letter. It was designed for a different era for a different kind of person.

On the right side, what you see is multiple dimensions of impact, full integration of who you are, nothing left at the door, success measured by contribution, designed for who you actually are, and that is portfolio of impact. So if not the letter, then what? And what I want to tell you is I want to give you a name for what you already are, and that is the portfolio of impact. Not a collection of roles, a convergence of everything you are. Let's look at this list for a second. Operator, the executive who delivers. Where did it go? Give me one second. Give me a second. Advisor, the mind other seek out. Investor, the ability to deploy capital. Creator, be the author, speaker, own your voice. Builder, entrepreneur, maker, and nurture. How many of us talk about soft skills and then think being a mother sometimes is a liability?

Or if we have to care for our kids, then you know what? We cannot be great leaders. I will show you something in a bit, but what I am trying to emphasize is instead of going after a letter, embrace the portfolio of impact and be all of it or the combination that works for you. Let me actually Here's who I am, all of me, and nothing left behind. In my, corporate America career, I am a CIO or a CISO for a company called Fresho Data, and I'm responsible at the intersection of building AI, security, and trust at enterprise scale. Outside of it, I'm also an executive and spiritual coach, and I'm helping and guiding leaders through alignment and clarity. I'm also an investor and advisor, and I'm helping early stage founders and VCs, helping them building what matters. I'm also an author and a speaker. I write books.

I speak at events, and I do everything in between. But most importantly, the role that I am so proud of, and it makes me a better person everywhere else. I have two children, the most grounding portfolio position I hold. And each of these rules feed into others. But the source for everything is alignment. Everything that I am, and I am fully owning it. And this is what is my answer to everyone who's asking me how do I get to the next level. So first, I say, instead of asking what's next, ask what is true, and truth will come from alignment. Ask yourself what is true to you. Let me be very honest with you. You cannot build a portfolio of impact sorry. Impact from a fragmented self. And this is why I was talking about work life balance is a lie. What you need is the integration.

And in order to have integration, you need to think about three things. Radical self honesty. That's number one. Ask yourself, who are you? What are your strengths? How do you play to your strengths? Number two, pattern interruption. Most of us have lived with conditioning or belief system that doesn't serve us anymore. We have to be willing to look at our belief system and ask ourselves, how are they serving us? Is it time to upgrade that software? Be very conscious about your patterns and change them. Last but not least, you cannot take action before alignment. I always say first alignment, then clarity, then focus, and then execution. If you are only doing mindless execution without clarity, ask yourself, how are you not seeing that you're adding more chaos to your life?

And here, I wanna ask you guys four questions. You have already been doing or living your portfolio of impact. But if you ask these four questions to yourself, be very honest what comes to you, and that will tell you what is your truth. Number one, what do you do that has nothing to do with your job title but creates real impact? What have you been leaving in the car every morning? Third, if you remove the title, what would still be true about you as a leader? Is the title making you a leader? Are your qualities making you a leader? Number four, what would your what would your portfolio of impact look like if you stop choosing? Answer these four questions, and you will start getting clarity to who you are and where you need to be. Remember this journey is not about climbing higher.

It is about staying true to yourself, and everything else will become the byproduct of that truth. And here's the truth. In my own journey, when I realized that all I needed was alignment, it created automatically velocity. That led to accelerated growth in every direction. Money recognition, promotions, everything started coming because I was living true to myself. And as I was living true to myself, I never say that I'm working. I say I'm always playing and having great time doing what I do. And what happens when you're playing? People see that. You stand out. You live in a way that it radiates not only your own environment, you inspire other. And then the next thing you know is people want to work with you, for you, and that leads to more success. So embrace this mindset.

And then in the end, what I want you to tell you is you don't have to choose between who you are and what you do. That was a lie. It's about time you realize you never did. And with that, I'm gonna stop here and go through the comments here and make sure if there are any questions I can answer. In the end, if you wanna stay in touch, here are some ways you can reach out to me by by my email. I also write on Substack, and I have a website. So please go ahead and use all these channels to reach out.